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What People Are Saying:
- 100% said "Fight for It!"
- 0% said "Cool-Off!"
- 0% said "Break-Up!"
My Friends Don't Like Him
by
Belinda
written last 2009-05-21
Belinda felt Like Crap when this was written
Is there something wrong with dating younger men? Why do people react negatively when an older woman dates a younger man? I hate it when some people call me a “cougar.” It’s not right. I mean why is it such a big deal?!
I had to bring up this topic because currently I’m going out with a 25-year-old sales executive and my friends just don’t dig me. They told me the guy just wants my money and to get laid. But I feel otherwise. I feel that he really, truly loves me. I may be 30 something but I still look young. There are other men who ask me out but Matthew is just different. He’s fun to be with. He’s responsible. He copes with my mood swings. He’s smart.
Matthew and I met in a sales training seminar in Florida late last year. I was there for my niece’s wedding. I bumped into him when I dropped by to say ‘hi’ to a friend who also happens to be attending same seminar. He was the one who introduced himself to me and I liked that. We exchanged numbers and I went back to Georgia. I didn’t expect to hear from him after that.
Three days after our meeting, I saw him again, this time in my boutique. I was shocked to see him there since I don’t remember telling him I own a boutique. Apparently, he Googled me and found out where he can find me. He told me later that he wanted to surprise me that was why he didn’t call. I guess he won my heart when he did that. Also, he finds time to visit me here in Atlanta even if it meant a long drive. That’s effort there!
I enjoy so much his company and I’m planning to introduce him to my family soon. My friends…well, they think I should get to know the guy “better.” I know they are just being protective of me but sometimes I don’t like how they treat him. Matthew hasn’t complained but I could feel he’s also having a hard time. I love my friends but it pains me that they refuse to see the good in Matthew. I am also scared that Matthew will soon get tired of trying to win my friends’ approval. I can see his sincerity. He doesn’t make me feel I’m much older than him. I don’t want to lose him. I don’t want to lose my friends either. How much longer should I wait for everything to be okay?
