A Break-up Saved Our Relationship

by Courtney written last 2009-06-07
Courtney felt OK when this was written

Looking back I never thought Trevor and I can reach this far in our relationship. We’re now married for two years. Back then, our personalities clashed. We have contradicting views about everything and we don’t take them sitting down. We fight over our many differences. Everyday we had new things to argue about.

Fours years ago, my best friend Pamee and her fiancé Garrett got married in Viva Las Vegas Wedding Chapel. The night of their wedding, we went to Cayote Ugly to celebrate. We decided to call it a night around 2 a.m. As we were exiting the bar, a muscular guy blocked my way. It was Trevor. He was very drunk and I could hardly understand what he was saying. But I definitely took notice of his handsome face. Trevor tried to convince me to stay for awhile and have few beers with him. But since I was already tipsy, I declined. Besides, we had an early flight to Washington that day. We’ll just have a quick shuteye before leaving Vegas.

I totally forgot about Trevor until I bumped into him again in a bar (again) in Washington three months later. This time, it was me who approached him. As soon as he saw me, he smiled. He remembered me. We had a long talk and later exchanged numbers. He was staying in Newport while I live with my Mom in Waterville.

After 6 months of dating, we decided to call it quits. Though the physical attraction is strong, we weren’t connecting in other aspects. He’s assertive, I’m a bit shy. He goes to the gym a lot. I hate exercise! We fought what kind of pet to buy, which channel to watch, who to vote, and what to eat.

When we broke up, our friends were relieved. They said they had enough of our fights. I thought I will also have a quiet life without Trev but I was wrong. The fighting ceased but my love for him gave me sleepless nights. Suddenly, my bed is too big for me. I missed him so badly I lost interest in everything including food. I sulked for 3 months until I got really sick. Trevor was the first one to visit me in the hospital. I immediately noticed how he too had lost weight. He told me how he suffered without me. Right then and there we realized how foolish we were for not working hard on our relationship.

We sorted out our problems after I got out of the hospital. We compromised on a lot of stuff. Then, we decided to get married in Vegas where we first met. I can’t say we’re perfect now and that we no longer fight. We still fight but now we try to solve the issue right away.