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jealousy is a b*tch
by
jasmin
written last 2009-06-23
jasmin felt Like Crap when this was written
so here's the thing, i've always been the jealous type and has never (ever) gotten over it. i know it's wrong and completely foolish, but it's something i find hard to avoid.
my boyfriend and i have been together for only 10 months now, but a lot has already happened. we've fought numerous times already, mostly because of girls. i know it's not a big deal, but some of the reasons were because i found out that he slept with a girl he knew i disliked just a month before he courted me. another is because he had his friends over his place for some drinks, and there was this one girl who got drunk and slept at his place (take note: in his room with him). is it wrong for me to get jealous? even though he told me nothing happened, for crying out loud the girl was still drunk, and during that time i've never even slept at his place, or spend the night together with him. then some girl was able to do so before me, his girlfriend. they even have pet names for each other, "fave" as they like to call each other. what so now she's his "favorite" girl? it just irritates the hell out of me. i don't know what to do anymore.
my guy's pretty good looking so a lot of girls are attracted to him. one even forced him to break up with me just so they could be together instead. my boyfriend said no of course, but when the girl told him that it's sad coz they can't be together, he told her "we don't know about the future so don't worry", meaning that he wants to reassure her and that they might still have a chance together.
i really want to get over this jealousy crap. it hurts the hell out of me, and i don't to wait until i become an over-possessive person just to avoid being jealous of other girls. i don't want it to come to the point that i would have to tell him to stay away from "people" i get jealous with coz it's wrong, and it would be very selfish of me to do so. i just don't want to hurt anymore.
my friends told me that i should break up with him coz i always get hurt and cry because of him, but i can't and i don't want to because i love him.
what should i do? :(
Comments [8]
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jasmin | 2009-07-01
@ Romar: yeah you're right, i'm the only one who can decide what to do. i'm really just in need of advice. @ Onesimus: i'm not attracted to his physical aspect. what he looks like doesn't really matter to me. it's really more on what i'm feeling for him. @ anonymous: you're right, but is it ok for me to ask him to stay away from them? aren't i being just a little too selfish or over-reacting?
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anonymous | 2009-06-29
Hmm... Hmm...
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anonymous | 2009-06-29
Hmm... Hmm...well he's sick with uncontrollable jerk-ism. if he doesn't wanna hurt you then he should stay away from all these girls, or well at least, try. you are his girlfriend, it's normal to get jealous. he is an insensitive egotistic a-hole and you need to break up with him ASAP! never mind that he's good looking, if a boy treats you like trash.. DUMP HIM.
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Romar | 2009-06-25
Hmm... Hmm...
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Romar | 2009-06-25
Ok.. first of all. I think your bf is a player.. second.. I don't think u can get over the jealousy thing coz it's psychological and inside your head his always cheating.. I don't know that kind of advice you want to hear but one thing is for sure.. you can only solve your problem yourself.. u don't need people's opinions coz its ur damn life and the decision is still yours to make.. you already know the answer to your question since it's very obvious.
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Onesimus | 2009-06-24
Hmm... Hmm...
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Onesimus | 2009-06-24
Do you really love the guy? Or just because he looks damn so good? It could be infatuation Jasmin. I suggest you to cool-off with him, he really sounds like a jerk in that story of yours.
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anonymous | 2009-06-23
tell him how you feel. it's normal for a girlfriend to be jealous. and besides, if he loves you, he shouldn't do anything to hurt you.
